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- Author: Brianna Wiest
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Accomplishing goals is not success. How much you expand in the process is. — location: 64
A belief is what you know to be true because experience has made it evident to you. — location: 75
If you want to change your life, change your beliefs. If you want to change your beliefs, go out and have experiences that make them real to you. Not the opposite way around. — location: 75
Marcus Aurelius sums this up well: “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” — location: 78
Because experience is always multi-dimensional, there are a variety of memories, experiences, feelings, “gists” you can choose to recall…and what you choose is indicative of your present state of mind. — location: 83
anger = self-recognition. — location: 88
Most negative emotional reactions are you identifying a disassociated aspect of yourself. — location: 88
The things you love about others are the things you love about yourself. The things you hate about others are the things you cannot see in yourself. — location: 93
Happiness, we infer, comes from the perpetual seeking of “more,” regardless what it’s “more” of. — location: 99
Your routine could be traveling to a different country every month. It could be being routinely un-routine. — location: 101
Whatever you want your day-to-day life to consist of doesn’t matter, the point is that you decide and then stick to it. — location: 103
Your habits create your mood, and your mood is a filter through which you experience your life. — location: 110
Psychologist Robert Thayer argues that moods are created by our habitualness: how much we sleep, how frequently we move, what we think, how often we think it, and so on. — location: 112
Learning to craft routine is the equivalent of learning to let your conscious choices about what your day will be about guide you, letting all the other, temporary crap fall to the wayside. — location: 118
Happiness is not how many things you do, but how well you do them. — location: 120
More is not better. Happiness is not experiencing something else; it’s continually experiencing what you already have in new and different ways. — location: 121
As children, routine gives us a feeling of safety. As adults, it gives us a feeling of purpose. — location: 126
When we’re adults engaging with routine-ness, we can comfort ourselves with the simple idea of “I know how to do this, I’ve done it before.” — location: 129
“Flow” (in case you don’t know—you probably do) is essentially what happens when we become so completely engaged with what we’re doing, all ideas or worries dissolve, and we’re just completely present in the task. — location: 135
you’ll allow it simply because “you always do.” — location: 142
Fear means you’re trying to move toward something you love, but your old beliefs, or unhealed experiences, are getting in the way. (Or, rather, are being called up to be healed.) — location: 167
happiness is a choice, — location: 169
of who they allow into their lives and hearts. They — location: 182
They are kind to all, but truly open to few. — location: 182
They don’t confuse a bad feeling for a bad life. — location: 183
Emotionally intelligent people allow themselves their “bad” days. They let themselves be fully human. — location: 185
grief is a faster teacher than joy — location: 192
We all start as strangers, but we forget that we rarely choose who ends up a stranger, too. — location: 218
Manners are cultural social intelligence. — location: 223
If you genuinely disliked something, you would simply disengage with it. — location: 269
They listen to hear, not respond. While listening to other people speak, they focus on what is being said, not how they are going to respond. — location: 273
They do not post anything online they would be embarrassed to show to a parent, explain to a child, or have an employer find. — location: 275
The main thing socially intelligent people understand is that your relationship to everyone else is an extension of your relationship to yourself. — location: 286
Real emotional maturity is how thoroughly you let yourself feel anything. — location: 346