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- Author: Chip Heath
Highlights
We all have defining moments in our lives—meaningful experiences that stand out in our memory. — location: 73
Defining moments shape our lives, but we don’t have to wait for them to happen. We can be the authors of them. — location: 80
When people assess an experience, they tend to forget or ignore its length—a phenomenon called “duration neglect.” — location: 119
the best or worst moment, known as the “peak”; and (2) the ending. Psychologists call it the “peak-end rule.” — location: 120
But, as with moments of transition, there are some milestones that seem to go ignored. Students get short-changed, for instance. Sure, they advance in “grade,” but why not celebrate their 1,000th day in the classroom, or their 50th book read? And why don’t we celebrate teachers for their 1,000th student taught? — location: 338
If you’re struggling to make a transition, create a defining moment that draws a dividing line between Old You and New You. — location: 322
Shouldn’t every organization in the world have a version of this First Day Experience? — location: 283
For new employees, it’s three big transitions at once: intellectual (new work), social (new people), and environmental (new place). The first day shouldn’t be a set of bureaucratic activities on a checklist. It should be a peak moment. — location: 255
All it required was some attention to milestones. — location: 346
- To think in moments is to be attuned to transitions and milestones as well as to a third type of experience: pits. Pits are the opposite of peaks. They are negative defining moments—moments of hardship or pain or anxiety. — location: 346
When employees handled these situations well, they transformed a negative moment to a positive one. — location: 367
Every great service company is a master of service recovery. — location: 368
Offering to help someone in a difficult time is its own goal and reward. — location: 373
moments of elevation and connection and pride—almost any time is a good time. The more you can multiply them, the better. — location: 422
three situations constitute natural defining moments and deserve our attention: (1) transitions; (2) milestones; and (3) pits. — location: 469
Even though high school students log more time in the classroom than anywhere else, their most memorable experiences rarely take place there. Instead, they remember prom, football games, musical productions, student body elections, swim meets, talent shows. — location: 551
“The students never asked, ‘How many points is this worth?’ ” said Bedford, incredulous. “That’s always the first question out of kids’ mouths, but they never asked it. — location: 567
“I think it’s very rare for parents to see their students’ work,” — location: 582
They see dance performances. They see plays. But it’s very rare for parents to see the academic work their kids do. — location: 583
“School needs to be so much more like sports,” he added. “In sports, there’s a game, and it’s in front of an audience. We run school like it is nonstop practice. You never get a game. Nobody would go out for the basketball team if you never had a game. What is the game for the students?” — location: 584
“Where’s the peak?” With sports, games provide peaks. — location: 587
In service businesses, there are a huge number of potholes to fix, and that’s why executives can get trapped in an endless cycle of complaint management. They’re always playing defense and never offense. — location: 614
Negative feedback packs a heavier punch than positive; we obsess about 1 negative comment in a collection of 10 supportive ones. — location: 657
“Bad Is Stronger than Good.” — location: 659
To create fans, you need the remarkable, and that requires peaks. Peaks don’t emerge naturally. They must be built.III — location: 664
To raise the stakes is to add an element of productive pressure: a competition, a game, a performance, a deadline, a public commitment — location: 676
Boosting sensory appeal is about “turning up the volume” on reality. Things look better or taste better or sound better or feel better than they usually do. — location: 670
One simple diagnostic to gauge whether you’ve transcended the ordinary is if people feel the need to pull out their cameras. — location: 680
Our instinct to capture a moment says: I want to remember this. That’s a moment of elevation. — location: 682
you like the idea of introducing more peaks in your life or work. You get it. But you may be vastly underestimating the difficulty of making it happen. The concept is simple but the execution is hard. — location: 690
in others it has been ignored altogether. Why? It’s no one’s job, and it’s a hassle, and there’s always something happening that seems more urgent. — location: 700
This is the great trap of life: One day rolls into the next, and a year goes by, and we still haven’t had that conversation we always meant to have. — location: 746